Time I started my own Blog! My early history can be read in my introduction post https://www.transrefuge.org/index.php/topic,70.msg483.html#msg483
but this blog is to keep up with current happenings. While my transition seems to be plodding along, to some it seems to be progressing quite well. I have feminised in the past 10 months of HRT, but not fast enough for me! I lost 55 pounds but since Xmas I have put on 12 pounds, so back on the diet! My breasts have developed to B cup and that, plus my long hair, has led to lots of misgendering while presenting in male mode. So it seems my timing for going full time in April is right. It is almost easier for me to present as female at this point, though I am nowhere near passable. I am also well into organising my GRS, having a surgeon consult in May and working with a psychologist and psychiatrist to get my letters of approval, and have the procedure pencilled in for January 2021.
I am so lucky with acceptance and support from family, friends and work colleagues, and I seem to be able to present as female in public without negative reactions. So my big challenge is keeping my wife. We are soul mates and compliment each other. She cannot accept being married to a woman, so, after a lot of emotional discussions, we decided to divorce, but continue living together as best friends. Her attitude changed significantly after that decision, and all our forms have been processed and we have a court date in April. She was still uncomfortable at the thought of being with me in public, so I started inviting friends to visit us at our house. This broke the ice for her as she realised people could be comfortable around me and have an enjoyable time.
The next step for her was to be with me in public. We have been on holiday in another state for the past 10 days, and the first half of the holiday I presented as a male. Our focus on this holiday was to go out on a whale watch cruise to film Orcas hunting squid. We were at the stern of the vessel on the way out to sea, and a crew person approached us to tell us about the facilities on the boat, and addressed us as 'Ladies', though I was wearing male jeans and hoodie. The cruise was excellent, and we saw plenty of Orcas, plus sunfish and lots of seabirds.
The second half of our time away was my turn to present as female. She was very nervous as we visited tourist locations and went to cafes and shops, but soon she realised everybody was treating us nicely, and nobody seemed to even look twice at me. She had booked us into an AirBnB which advertised it was trans friendly, so we were welcomed there. The next day was more of the same and by the end of the day she admitted feeling quite comfortable with me. We went to stay with my brother and his family, and I was warmly welcomed by all, and quickly everything seemed so normal. They had organised to take us to a tourist island for a day of exploring on bicycles. We were on an early ferry which was quite full and spent the day riding around the islands spectacular beaches and other features. My wife focus was to get pictures of Quokkas, a cute little marsupial animal like a miniature kangaroo. We had lunch at a restaurant and continued exploring on our bikes. I asked her how she was feeling being with me out in public, and she said she had forgotten how I was dressed until I mentioned it. She said she was completely comfortable, but it wouldn't be the same when we got home.
Next challenge is to make her feel comfortable wit me at home. I have only 8 weeks before I go full time so I need to ease her into getting used to being with Allie among people we know.
Pics from our day touring Rottnest Island and touring the south west coast.